Harnessing Subconscious Power: Tools for Emotional Wellness and Transformation with Diana Sofia

Diana Sofia [00:00:00]:
Welcome back

Dr. Christine Li [00:00:01]:
to the Make Time For Success podcast. This is episode number 165. If you're interested in operating from a place of inner peace and joy, then I invite you to grab your favorite drink and stick around and enjoy this masterclass of a session in clearing mental clutter and ways to transform both your personal and professional relationships, by the end of this episode, you're going to have a sense of what it feels like to operate at a superhuman level where you can overcome your fears and pursue all of your desires. Special guest today is going to be our teacher. Her name is Diana Sofia, and she is a heart led hypnotherapist, speaker, subconscious reprogramming expert and mindset and nervous system regulation coach, she helps purpose driven female entrepreneurs to expand their impact, joy in income by guiding them to clear their limiting beliefs, imposter syndrome, self doubt, fears, and self sabotage, she also helps them to regulate their nervous system and emotions to feel safe taking action towards their dreams and goals, achieving them and enjoying them, she uses methodologies like hypnosis, EFT tapping, and rapid resolution therapy to facilitate deep appealing and rapid transformations so that they can step into their power, continue to take bold action and show up with confidence and authenticity in their businesses and lives, I have learned from Diana over the years myself personally, and I can't wait to share her gifts and her knowledge and her wonderful personality with you now. Let's go listen to the episode together. Hi. I'm doctor Christine Li, and I'm a psychologist and a procrastination coach, I've helped thousands of people move past procrastination and overwhelm so they could begin working to their potential.

Dr. Christine Li [00:02:04]:
In this podcast, you're going to learn powerful strategies for getting your mind, body, and energy to work together so that you can focus on what's really important and accomplish the goals you want to achieve. When you start living within your full full power, you're going to see how being productive can be easy and how you can create success on demand. Welcome to the Make Time For Success podcast.Hi, everyone. It is Christine again. I am fresh from vacation, so if today goes wonky somehow, you're gonna know why. But today, I know we're in capable hands because I have my beautiful and wonderful and talented guest, Diana Sofia, with me and with us today. Sofia and I have known each other for quite some time, she is a coach of mine inside a program that I'm in with my coach James Wedmore, I have adored learning from Diana, getting to know her over the years.

Dr. Christine Li [00:03:12]:
I've learned so much from her and I've enjoyed seeing her progress over the years as well and she is a subconscious mindset an nervous system regulation coach for female entrepreneurs, and she is here all smiles and raring to go, I know we have just discussed what we're gonna talk about today, and we're so excited to be together here with you, thank you so much, Diana, for being here today.

Diana Sofia [00:03:43]:
Thank you so much, Christine, and thank you so much for such a lovely introduction. I always love and enjoy your company, your energy. You're always so bubbly and just, like, happy. So it's my a Absolute pleasure to be here, and, yeah, thank you so much for the opportunity.

Dr. Christine Li [00:04:00]:
Well, I have loved every minute of knowing you, and I know we're gonna learn a lot from you today and experience a lot from you today as well. So let's get going. How did you become interested in nervous system regulation. Let's start there.

Diana Sofia [00:04:19]:
Mhmm. Okay. So, Basically, I didn't know anything about, like, this this topic of subconscious reprogramming and nervous system regulation when I started being a coach. Like, I my first Type of coaching that I did in this world was health and wellness coaching. So I was like a holistic health and nutrition coach for people that just wanted To feel better, like, eat it healthy, like, do more exercise, and that type of thing. And while I was doing that, what, I started noticing is that people, and even myself, right, were having this experience where, like, they would be On track with their eating, with their healthy lifestyle, and whatever it is, and then they will fall off track. And it was this, like, On and off scene. Right? On track, off track.

Diana Sofia [00:05:05]:
On track, off track. And, like, I I came into the coaching world because I wanted to be able to create Deep transformations in people, like, that has always been is one of my values. It's like, how can I make, like, deep transformation in the world and in people? And that's what drove me initially to even become a coach. You know? So when this was happening, I was like, okay. Wait a second. You know? Like, there's a trend here that I don't like, know, because I would love to be as effective as I can as a coach. And in that process of, like, wondering what makes people transform in a Sustainable and also permanent way. Right? Like, what what makes people because you you have seen people.

Diana Sofia [00:05:45]:
Right? Like, we all have seen people that literally says, like, I'm gonna do this, and they suddenly just become a different person. It's like there's something that happens there. Right? So I started becoming curious about that, And that led me to to learn about the subconscious mind. So that was my 1st step. I learned that our mind, If we were to see it as an iceberg, you know, only 10% is conscious mind and 90% is subconscious mind. And I no idea. You know? But in that process, I learned that that 90% that is a subconscious mind is basically in charge of 95%, Which is insane. 95% of our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors, and also lack of behavior, right, inaction Every single day and it runs in autopilot.

Diana Sofia [00:06:36]:
So our brain is this amazing, you know, machine. Right? Like, it's, like, so wise and so good, and it loves Being efficient. It loves saving time, saving, energy, you know, because just just because we think and everything, we, like, Spend a lot of energy there. So because of that wanting to be efficient, it automates a lot of things. So those are those programs that are being run-in the subconscious mind. So then I learned, you know, that the reason why it's so hard for some people to make those shifts is because Shifts are happening at a surface level. We're using willpower, discipline. We're using basically the faculties of our conscious mind, you know, like reason, Our ability to focus, be disciplined, make plans, make goals, all of the faculties of just that 10% of our mind, And we are missing for the most part.

Diana Sofia [00:07:28]:
When anyone wants to make a change in their behavior, for the most part, they will approach it from a conscious mind perspective. 5th, oh, let me just make a plan, make a goal, put it in my calendar, and just get it done. You know? But then most of us, Because on we don't know that the mind has these 2 parts. Right? We miss out on actually taking advantage and leveraging the 90% of the subconscious mind. So that was what was happening with my people. And then also in that process, I also learned, For example, how their emotions, you know, and, like, the stress that they were feeling, the load of, like, work or everything, like, all the emotional part has such a huge impact in their eating behaviors as well. A lot of people Where eating, you know, like a lot of my clients were eating because they wanted to cope with their emotions. You know? And, basically, they had all these emotions that they didn't know how to process, how to feel, how to reduce, how to regulate, how to get back to balance.

Diana Sofia [00:08:30]:
Right? So then they would use food and or distractions to cope with those emotions. So that's how I basically came into into like, that in order for a person to make a easier change that is sustainable, that is permanent, you have to engage Not only the conscious mind, but also the subconscious mind. You know? And how you do that is with tools like hypnosis, like EFT being like there's a bunch of things like Marissa Pierce, rapid transformational rapid transformational therapy. There's also rapid resolution therapy. There's Psyche I mean, like, there's literally an endless, yeah, list of of methodologies that access that can access and shift the subconscious mind So that what people experience on the other side of that is that instead of, like, forcing themselves to do these things or forcing themselves To think and feel in a certain way, these things just come naturally. Because you shift the subconscious mind, you shift The way that your the mind is reading the world, reading all the experiences that you're going through and everything, and then what happens on the other side of that is that Your brain automates that as well, so then you have all these, like, amazing new patterns of thinking, behaving, feeling That are empowering, that are supportive of your life happiness, of your goals, of your dreams, of taking the actions that you want to take in order to achieve whatever it is that you want to achieve, that support having amazing relationships, right, like fulfilling, connective relationships, empowering relationships, and all of that just gets automated by the brain. You know? So that's why I became fascinated by this. And then when I learned about that, I also did a massive transition in how, like, I work my my coaching, and also, like, I learn about hypnosis, if the tapping, and all the stuff to be able to support people in this capacity.

Diana Sofia [00:10:21]:
And actually, I also shifted my my, I I mean, that has been a slow process, but basically, I shifted. So now I work with Female entrepreneurs, just because I love I well, I have personally experienced, you know, like, what it's like to start a business, which is crazy bananas, and it, like, literally pushes you to the edge of, like, I don't know, edge of your comfort zone again and again and again, and there's so many fears and so so much uncertainty and, like, and self doubt and all these things that show Up. You know? So, like, I shifted my practice to help female entrepreneurs fully show up in their business, with authenticity, with, like, Their whole selves. Right? And also and we do that by overcoming those fears. We're helping them overcome those fears, that self doubt, anything that is getting on the way of them truly shining, you know, in in their businesses. So so yeah. So that's a little of the story of how I end up here.

Dr. Christine Li [00:11:21]:
That was fantastic. I informed our listeners that they would be learning a lot today. I really enjoyed listening to that explanation of your discovery process, but also how the brain is wired and how we end up fighting against ourselves so often because of all of these subconscious processes and how we really can harness the power of what we want, our desires applied doing the kind of work that you have invested so much time and energy and passion into. So thank you for that wonderful explanation, I find myself fascinated in you. Oh, you're welcome. Thank you. I find myself fascinated by the fact that the starting point for you was health, eating, wellness, because I think so many of us have experienced a conflictual relationship with Yeah. Health habits, could you talk a little bit about that? What have you learned through this journey that you've taken about our relationship with taking care of ourselves in such a fundamental way.

Diana Sofia [00:12:35]:
Mhmm. Yeah. Oh my god. That that is a whole world. So, yeah, I think what I wanted to add also to what you said is that, like, about, like, conscious and and subconscious mind, and it relates totally with, like, health habits and and everything, is that our conscious mind and this is exactly how It works and why it's conflictual, you know, like, in in and not just in in health and wellness, but in every area of our life, we're gonna see that, like, Like that duality. There's a part of us that wants to eat healthy, that wants to, like, you know, feel good. And it's like, oh my god. Yes.

Diana Sofia [00:13:09]:
It's like Exercise, it makes me feel so good, so alert, so sharp. And also when I eat good, like, eating, like, healthier, you know, like, I feel like this and that. So that part that has Our best interest in mind is our conscious mind. So a conscious mind is the one that sets the goals, the plans, Knows exactly what we want and what we need in order to thrive in life. Is that like and that's basically the pre prefrontal cortex. So it's also the the the part of our mind that has the willpower and all this and willpower discipline, like, puts like, sets, like, you know, like, the schedule, all that stuff that is more like straightforward like that. Right? So then what I learned in this path of discovery and then also with my background in health wellness is that we're always gonna have that duality of, like, the conscious mind wanting to do better, knowing how to do better, You know, and this is what happens to a lot of people. I know I would be much better off exercising, eating healthy, blah blah, these different things, sleeping early, you know, like not being on my phone, blah blah blah, all the healthy habits.

Diana Sofia [00:14:15]:
Right? But then the subconscious mind, at Some point has automated these, you know, habits that are maybe not as Supportive of our well-being, you know, just because, it became a habit. Right? And then the habit was automated, and then they're just running us automations. So that conflict that we feel in our health and wellness, department, in our well-being, you know, like wanting to do one thing, but then Noticing how we may start well, but then fall off, is that, like, almost like A little, like it's not really a battle, but it's kind of like it's that these 2 forces, you know, inside of us. Yes. 1, Pulling to okay. This is what we have been doing, you know, for and that is our thing about the subconscious mind. The subconscious mind automates everything. And then once it has automated all that stuff, Even if it's, like, consciously, you know, that it's not, supportive of your health because you continue to be alive, the subconscious mind takes that as information and says like, oh, okay.

Diana Sofia [00:15:19]:
Perfect. You're smoking and you're still alive, so then that must mean that you need smoking to stay alive. You know, so then it automates everything. Oh, you're eating, like like this and that, and you're still alive? Okay. So then that must mean that it's fine to eat like this and stay alive. And your subconscious mind is like among many things, you know, inside, like, it also has a primitive mind. The primitive mind is meant to Make you survive. Right? It's always looking out for making us survive.

Diana Sofia [00:15:45]:
So then what happens is that because We're still alive and we're eating like that. We're, like, doing we're, I don't know, not exercising, whatever it is, it thinks, okay. Perfect. This is working now, so why change it? You know? So then literally think, you know, that if we change any of those behaviors, you know, to what we know consciously are more positive ones, right, it literally thinks that you're gonna die because this already means Not die and then or anything outside of that is you may die. So then it brings resistance. It literally brings, like, resistance, cravings, thoughts, obsessive thoughts about, like, eat that chocolate cake, you know, so that it gets you to stay on that track. So then the best thing that we can do and this same thing is applicable for everything, also business. Right? Same thing.

Diana Sofia [00:16:39]:
You're gonna have all these like, we have automated. It's Like, we don't go on social media and do stories. We have automated that. It's like, that's scary. We have automated that, like, selling my offers. You know? Like, no. It's like, we don't do that. We don't want to be salesy.

Diana Sofia [00:16:53]:
You know, we have automated all this track of things, you know, that are, like, safety. Right? And, like, Being in our comfort zone and whatever and everything outside of that, the subconscious mind sees it as a threat of threat to your survival. We consciously know that if we, like, actually switch to eating healthier, like, doing more workouts, whatever it is, we're not gonna die. Actually, we're gonna, like, five. Right? And we same in business or in our careers, we know that if we show up, like, more powerfully and confidently and whatever, we're not gonna die. You know? But the Primitive mind, you know, like, which is anyways in the subconscious mind, it's like, it's just in that one track. This is how we live type thing. So what I tell everyone is, like, if you want to naturally behave, think, and feel in a way that is gonna be supportive to your well-being to your health, to your fitness, to your business, to your career, to your relationships, then you have to find Those patterns of thinking, behaving, and feeling that are an obstacle to just Being the best you can be in your relationships, at work, in your business, you know, and in your health and wellness So that you can clear that, rewrite it, rewire it, and then you can align your subconscious mind to support you in those goals.

Diana Sofia [00:18:15]:
A Because that's a 100% possible, and that's exactly so, like, I literally just shared last week that I usually do a debrief, you know, at the end of the year of every area of my life, what went well, what didn't go that well, and how would I make it in this new year at 10 over 10? You know? And as I was doing that, you know, I literally like, the first thing I noticed is that every single thing that I want to do better It's gonna require for me to rewire my subconscious mind and my nervous system adapt my nervous system to behave, feel, and Think in a different way so that I can more easily achieve those goals, that 10 over 10 or, like, close to 10, right, like 8 over 10 or whatever in those areas of my life. Right? And it's just funny because, like, that's that's the easiest way to do it. Then we can also like, I I love using the conscious mind to create direction. Right? Okay. What is that we want? What is that we like? What is like, what would make us the happiest, you know, like, if it happened in our business, in our career, in you know, like, what would we happy with in our health and wellness okay. Awesome. Use your conscious mind to set those goals, to make those plans, to strategize how to get there, But then involve your subconscious mind and your nervous system regulating your nervous system to Support you in that, you know, so that you can automate those empowering, supportive behaviors and thoughts and and emotions That are gonna take you there without having to row against the current. You know? So, basically, that's like yeah.

Diana Sofia [00:19:51]:
That's how I would say, and that's why, you know, going back to your initial question, that's why we have that almost resistance, you know, like, to doing those things just because mine has automated that. You know? Primitive mind has automated that and has This is why this is why we're still alive, you know, even though it doesn't make any sense in many cases, you know.

Dr. Christine Li [00:20:09]:
Yes. I do. So yes. And I as I'm listening to you explain these things, I keep thinking how valuable it is to have the help of a coach Yes. To observe what's going on, to observe what are the triggers, to observe what are the repeating patterns because sometimes just left to our own devices, we might be eating the same way every day, but not recognizing that that's because we're stressed or because we don't believe in ourselves and those kinds of

Diana Sofia [00:20:43]:
Yeah. Or because of fear. Right? Like, may We're we're feeling stuck in some sort of, like, a place or whatever, and and what is keeping us stuck is fear of, like, whatever of, I don't know, being rejected, fear of, like, failure, fear of making a mistake, so many fears that keeps us keep us in in our place. Right? So yeah. Yeah. No. A 100%. And yeah.

Diana Sofia [00:21:05]:
And that's why it's like a lot of people have this, like, almost like 2 voices in there. It's like, I know what to do. You know? And a lot of people this experience. Like, I just know what to do. I know what I should be doing. I know what's good for me. I know what's gonna be good for my health, for my business, for my relationship, and I cannot get myself to do this or feel this way or think this way or believe this, that this empowering thing that I that would help me Really move forward. Right? It's because of these 2 minds, you know, and the solution for that is always hands down also involved in whatever coaching you're doing, you know, like, have, like, a mentor, you know, to guide you in each of these areas.

Diana Sofia [00:21:44]:
Right? Like, I and that's our thing. That's our the one of my strategist, going back to what you were saying, it's like athletes, anyone that has, like, achieved, like, anything big in their lives, You know, like, big goals, they have a team of people helping them. They have a coach. They have nutritionists. They have, like, all of these different people. Right? Same as, like, entrepreneurs. They are, like, learning from this person, that person. You know, like, successful entrepreneurs are just, like, taking, you know, from They're mentors.

Diana Sofia [00:22:12]:
Right? They are not trying to go at this fully alone. They will read the books. They will do like, they will have some reference. Right? So have your the coach that is going to guide you through, like, in each of these areas. And in whatever you do in this Friday of how to get to your goals, Just always think, how can I make it easier, you know, for me to behave, feel, and think, and believe in a way that is gonna be supportive of goal that I'm trying to create in any area of my life, and that always is gonna be, okay, I need to bring my subconscious mind on board? Whatever is in resistance, in objection, at a subconscious level to this goal, I need to clear it, rewire it, like, change it so that it can support me instead of call me back, basically.

Dr. Christine Li [00:22:58]:
Yes. So regarding that, there are times when we don't know what our deepest subconscious fears are. Correct?

Diana Sofia [00:23:11]:
Mhmm. Yes. Mhmm.

Dr. Christine Li [00:23:14]:
So that on our own, it might be almost, if not totally impossible to change the habits that we're doing.

Diana Sofia [00:23:24]:
Yes and no. So there's, like I feel like there's layers. Okay. So I'll just but I don't know if you want to ask more more about that. I'm just opening

Dr. Christine Li [00:23:32]:
up that part of the conversation, you know, what do you do when I call it self sabotage? When you really have you've got a coach, 2 you know what your plan is, you have experience, and yet this funny thing happens where you lose the key to the door that you need to do the thing and I call it self sabotage because it feels entirely outside of my conscious control so I'm referring to things that I have done, of course, in my life too. So could you speak about that that when it's so deep that it almost becomes funny that we do this to ourselves, and how do you get at those deepest levels of resistance to change.

Diana Sofia [00:24:18]:
I love this question. Okay. So how I see also, Like, in in the mind, as I was saying, as an iceberg, I feel like there's, like, levels. Right? So, like, in the conscious mind, obviously, you're gonna have you're gonna have your awareness of a lot of things. Everything that is conscious, but also your conscious mind has the ability to find and, like, kind of pinpoint And see, you know, become aware of some of those thoughts that are repeating in your mind. Right? Some of those emotions, like That's amazing thing about the conscious mind is that it can be your investigator. Our own personal investigator is like, what is that? There's a pattern repeating here. You know, like every time this happens, then I feel like this or every time something like this happens and I I'm thinking this.

Diana Sofia [00:25:07]:
I'm like going in my head. I'm like, I don't know, getting into overthinking or feeling this way, feeling that way. You know? So our conscious mind can have some access and awareness of what's happening at a subconscious level. Right? So that is possible. And then After that, there is a deeper layer, which is the one that you're talking about, where we are literally unconscious to That deeper layer, there's like I feel like there is what we know, what we know that we don't know, and then what we don't even know that we know don't know multite thing. So, like, there's all those layers. And there is definitely a 100% an unconscious part of it. And then when that happens, There's always been gonna be, like, a pattern that you can still recognize.

Diana Sofia [00:25:52]:
It's, like, gonna it's gonna be like you're saying. There's something funny that happens every time that, You know, I'm about to do the thing. I'm about to get to that next level, and then self sabotage happens in some sort of way. You know? I forget that thing. I anyways, whatever that may be. You know? And then usually what is happening there, and we can uncover that, is that we can take, you know, that conscious pattern, you know, like, because you already kind of see that there's a little pattern there and with either, some, like, basically questioning, you know, like guiding a coach guiding you in conversation or even doing some, hypnosis and asking this behavior, what's happening, what's trying to do, and everything, you know, like, that behavior or that pattern, we'll answer. And that which sounds totally weird that you can, like, talk to this thing, like, if it was a person, but that is possible. And, also, if it's a pattern of emotions, like, oh, every time this happens, I then get into fear and then I stop, Then you can dive into that emotion and send and then and uncover what are the the Fears maybe that are happening that we are not aware of, we can uncover limiting beliefs.

Diana Sofia [00:27:11]:
We can uncover core limiting beliefs, which is like those deeper, more broad, like, I am not good enough, I don't deserve to, you know, like, have success in my life or, like, for example, it's like I have had this pattern with, like, clients where and it's, like, it's so funny because it comes in groups, I feel like. But literally, several of my clients recently Have had this experience where they were kind of bullied or put down for shining bright, for having the answers, For standing out as in their schools and whatever it is, and they like, people around them that didn't like that, that Maybe for or whatever it is, we're trying to, like, put them down. So then the thought, the belief was created when I stand out, People don't like me. When I stand out, people bully me. So I have to just stay down, not shine, not like Basically not stand out, not like do anything good, and they literally will lower their IQ, like people like, I mean, we will In order to because here's the thing. A lot of these things that are happening in the past are things that are, like, that somebody bully you, whatever it is, are happening in formative years. Right? Like, many times. Like, either from 0 to 7, 8, or also, like, in our teenage years.

Diana Sofia [00:28:32]:
And those are moments where, like, we are very vulnerable in our, like, development. Right? So we take this to heart. Like, in the process of trying to belong, you know, when we're teenagers, when we're rejected, that is a big hit To our, like, ego, and that literally goes against at our subconscious level, primitive brain is saying this is going against your a We don't want this. So literally, we will lower our IQ, which is crazy. And don't ask. Right? Like, our conscious mind will lower our our IQ, will make us more clumsy, more whatever it is just to literally survive, you know, survive. But, like, What we are experiencing on the order side of that is like, I continue to sabotage myself. I don't understand.

Diana Sofia [00:29:17]:
It's like, I know there's a new level level of, like, me showing up in my life authentically, there's this, like, person inside of me that wants to shine through. This was a 100% me. I literally was that, and I felt blocked. And I had no idea why. So that's why I love this question that you asked because a 100%, there's moments where we will feel like There is way more potential that I'm not tapping into. There's, like, there's this person inside of me that just wants to shine through that is so powerful, So confident. And here I am just, like, dimming my light, playing small, shrinking, feeling so afraid and fearful and so, like, shaky and not confident, like, what's happening? You know? What is and then in that, questioning process, in that, Sometimes, like, we I I will get people in a more relaxed state, you know, especially with tapping. So when we're doing tapping, And many times I do that in the very beginning, you know, when people really need to, like, kind of, like, regulate their nervous system first.

Diana Sofia [00:30:18]:
When we're tapping, we are basically tapping acupuncture points that are connecting with our relaxation response, and then what that does is, like, calm the person down. Right? Calm the nervous system down. Regulate the nervous system. And then sometimes we need to feel safe. You know, we are our subconscious mind needs to feel safe To be able to show you what is underneath many times. Because the subconscious mind also wants to protect us. So many times, it will hide from our awareness, little events and little things that have happened. And many times, these are silly things.

Diana Sofia [00:30:53]:
Like, the thing that I'm telling you. It's like somebody, You had, like, a a good grade and somebody just was like, oh, it's like, I didn't have a good grade. It's like, I don't like you type thing. You know? Like, silly stuff like that, it will hide it, you know, until it feels like you are ready to take care of it. And usually that is when you feel safe. So we sometimes do some tapping to feel safe, to be regulated, and then those things, those memories, those little things That created the pattern, it start arising, and we can see them. You know? So that's basically how we would handle Somebody that comes as with something that they have no clue why they are getting into this, and that's, like, what we would do In a session or in a and sometimes in in group settings as well. Like, in group settings, I can guide people to really dive deeper into what created the pattern.

Dr. Christine Li [00:31:44]:
Thank you for those beautiful explanations of such complex systems. When you say hide, I guess, I'm asking for clarification of what you mean by hide because I think you're talking about these are just unresolved issues that are kind of stored because they're unresolved

Diana Sofia [00:32:06]:
And they were painful in their, yeah, in their time. So, like, the mind, You know, it basically, the mind so that it doesn't doesn't like, you will have some memories that you remember. A 100%. We'll have them. But then the the subconscious mind so that it doesn't overburden us with all the different events, you know, that were painful, it will store them in the background outside of our conscious awareness Yes. And also, actually, this is great that you're asking me this because because it does that. A lot of times, we will get into a situation that either because of the emotion, the particular emotion that we're feeling, or because of the track through the situation that we are experiencing in the present moment looks very similar or feels very similar to something that happened in the past. You know, so then we may feel because of something that is happening in the present really heavily triggered, like really, really activated.

Diana Sofia [00:33:04]:
And usually when that happens, what is happening is that outside of our conscious awareness, so the subconscious mind is playing Those old movies, old black and white movies from, like, many years ago that are storing the memory, you know, and it's activating everything. Right? Every single time that you felt like this and then that super deep, deep, deep emotion that sometimes we feel, like the deep sadness that we feel because of something that happened in the present and we're like I mean, I I it makes sense that I'm feeling sad, but I don't know why I feel so sad. Or it makes sense that I'm, like, Afraid or whatever because it's something new, but I don't know why I'm so I literally feel like I'm gonna die. And I have had those experiences many times where, like, I feel so overly activated. And that's, like, literally my little alert, alert alarms, like, oh, you know, what's happening here is that I am like, my whole system is not reacting. It's not responding only to what I have in front of me. There must be some stored away Hidden, you know, memories that I don't have conscious awareness right now that are getting activated, you know, even though I cannot Particularly see them or, like, remember them, they're getting activated and are making these feel so much heavier than it would be. So that's, like, how I think about it.

Diana Sofia [00:34:23]:
So when I get really accretive, really triggered, I'm like, oh, there's no work to do here. There might be something there in the background that is, like, getting, Activated, you know, because of the similarity, because of the emotion, because of whatever. Some might believe that I'm, like, activating here. It look similar to this one back here, you know, so basically, that's that's what what's happening. And sometimes, like so here's the thing. When we uncover those things, Sometimes the person will have, oh, yeah. Like, I mean, I remember this. Like, I have think about this seen before, but I have not thought about this event in a long time.

Diana Sofia [00:35:01]:
So it's almost like you kind of remember view one, 2, if you make an effort, or if you're in this situation, right, and some of those memories are totally new, like, oh my goodness. I didn't even remember that that happened type thing, and you can recover, like, new memories. Right? But, yeah, for the most part are, like, silly little things that happen to our, like, 3 year old, like, 5 year old, 6 year old, 7 year old, our teenage self, you know, or Even like 20, 21 can, like, leave a big impression depending on what it was. You know? And it like, if we see it from our eyes As an adult, we're like, like, that was a silly little thing. Right? But, obviously, for your 3 year old, 5 year old, I don't know, 6 year old, It could have been like a transgression of your safety, of, like, your security, of your belonging, of your, you know, love, like appreciation, like, all your emotional support, whatever it is. Right? So because, obviously, at that age, we're, like, we're We are not fully developed. So, like, we sometimes cannot even understand what's happening. And there's also a lot of personalization.

Diana Sofia [00:36:12]:
Right? Everything that happens around us is is our fault type thing at that age. Right? So it's like, oh, parents are, like, fighting. I say, yeah, my fault. You know? Like, something wrong I have done or whatever. Or maybe they don't love me or me. I did something So there's a lot of personalization and also there's a lot of, like, wrong meanings being attributed to what they are seeing. You know? So that's why When moms ask, like, how can I make sure that I don't traumatize my kids? It's like this sounds like anyone can get traumatized for the silliest little thing little things. Like, One, you won't be able to, like, stop it from happening.

Diana Sofia [00:36:49]:
Seriously. You can be the most, like, conscious, aware, intentional mom and, like, you will never be able to know everything that is happening in that little head of your kid, Impossible and how they are processing. Because also they come with their own processing system, right, their own brain, and they're gonna process The events that happened to them, like the things the experiences, like, what so and so said, what mom said, what dad said, whatever it is, they're gonna process it in their own particular way. So there's not much that you can do in that department. The only the second thing where you can have more control, so whenever something happens, you can talk To your kid about, like, what they made that mean. You know? What are you thinking about this? You know? What are like, kind of like And just getting to understanding, it's like, okay. So what are your thoughts about this? What did you learn from the experience? To see if there's any faulty connections mean being made, you know, so that you can untangle those at that age, you're gonna it's so much easier to do it when, like, people are younger, you know, than when we're adults. And then I I just get I just get the people that have all these little things, you know, that we need to just, like, process those past memories that we need to process and And just, basically kind of clear the effects of those little memories, in the present moment, and then automatically, the person shifts.

Diana Sofia [00:38:12]:
It's like incredible. Basically, like, outside of 1 or 2 sessions, people feel massively different about the scene that they came with in the beginning.

Dr. Christine Li [00:38:23]:
I imagine that our listeners are having all sorts of experiences because I'm myself while listening and enjoying your reflections, I came up with a memory that I probably had when I was, let's say, 7 or 8 and I did not I mean, it was a very meaningful memory, but I have not thought about that in 30

Diana Sofia [00:38:48]:
years.

Dr. Christine Li [00:38:49]:
So Yeah. 30, 40 years maybe. So how how lovely that we have avenues of access and how lovely we have people like you to help us make sense of the pathways and the blocked pathways and the fact that we can have real enjoyment in exploring what is possible for us, thank you so much for all of this. It's so beautiful. Can we shift a little bit to I'm thinking of 2 words, calm and joy, because we spoken a lot about the investigation and the Mhmm. Mhmm. Painful memories and the faulty wiring and things like that, how do you use joy and calm if you do in terms of abiding people to really access what they do want to create for their future business, relationships, self image, eating habits, what have you.

Diana Sofia [00:39:48]:
Mhmm. I love that. I love this question. Yes. We have been talking about, and I love that you're saying this because also, like, Kind of like the process that I take people through, I always say that there's that clearing part of things. Right? Like, we're clearing all the things that we have been talking about Up to now. And then there is the embodying, you know, like actually taking action and embodying this new version of you. Right? That it comes out of, like, upgrading all this, like, bad stuff in the subconscious mind and in your nervous system.

Diana Sofia [00:40:19]:
So I love that you use those words. And I don't know if, like, you're literally totally picking up. So I always say, like, in the process of Helping people care all these things, you know, the idea is that on the other side of that, they will get to experience themselves as way more calm, way more grounded, and joyful in their lives, And when we are calm, brown, and joyful in our lives, what happens is that we have way more access To our inner resources, we have more access to our creativity, way more access to our, I don't know, like, resourcefulness and Intuition and our focus, also we can focus so much better. We have more motivation, inspiration, and all these amazing things that can make us So effective in our day to day life, in business relationships, in, like, health and wellness, in everything really, and, like, in our careers as well. Right? So How, I guess, I use those is, like, that's to me, like, the, like, part like, the ripple effect of the transformation. Right? So we have a certain goal. Like, everybody that comes to me usually has a certain goal that they are trying to achieve. For the most part, for business owners, it's like a certain revenue goal And, like, also how they want to feel, you know, like, in their everyday life, when they're doing their business or when they're navigating their career So that they can be more effective.

Diana Sofia [00:41:47]:
And a lot of times, we're clearing all the things, but then we're, like, also embodying that new version of themselves in that regard. So I think this, like, next step that happens is, like, who do you need to be To be able to make achieving those things inevitable. Oh, I need to be, I don't know, like, maybe more consistent And also feel more, you know, motivated and excited about my business and excited to, like, help people, and, And, you know, like, all these different ways of being, basically, and also embodying some of, like, you know, for example, like, I used to have, just wanna just a clear example here, like, of my own experience. I really wanted to be a public speaker for the longest time, but it's to be terrified public speaking, these type of situations, these type of interviews would literally, like, I mean, make me like, the days before, I wanted to like, I was Stomach sick. I wanted to puke. It was just like like so bad. Really, really bad. You know? And I did all these reprogramming then to become better at it.

Diana Sofia [00:42:54]:
Same thing. I had so many thought because I'm Peruvian and English is my second language. You know, when I started my business in English, this business, you know, I had all the thoughts about, like, oh, but I'm not concise, and I ramble, and I am not clear, and blah blah. It was, like, all the things. And then I am not creative. What am I what am I gonna talk about? All the thoughts and all the belief, right, it's, like, endless. So when I clear all the stuff, then I what was left wasn't me embodying this new version of myself because Here's the thing. When we have all these things going on, the fear, the regular way and we get used to that, we clear all the stuff.

Diana Sofia [00:43:35]:
We upgrade. Right? Our, our system. Let's just say all the beliefs, the thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. You know? And then we are left with, like, sometimes, okay. So, how should I behave in this thing? You know? So, like, it's good to have This like, I love doing hypnosis for embodying this new identity until it becomes, like, second nature to me. So I remember in my transition into this business and really embodying that, like, I am a public speaker. You know? I, like, I love speaking, I love communicating. I'm a good communicator.

Diana Sofia [00:44:11]:
I had to clear a lot of the stuff and then do hypnosis To rewire my brain into this new identity. And, that's how we use the next part. It's like, cool you want to be, it's like, how do you want to show up? It's like you get to be and show up like that. Because if you can Imagine it, you can a 100% do it. Right? So that's I I feel like I use emotions like like, joy calm grounded as my nurse, you know, as to how do I want to feel when shit's hitting the fan. You know? Literally, it's like when oh, sorry. I also forgot to ask if

Dr. Christine Li [00:44:48]:
I can answer. That's okay.

Diana Sofia [00:44:51]:
Anyway, you know, how do I want to feel When, you know, like, the unexpected happens in my business, when there's a normal stress or whatever, I want to be able to feel calm because that's where I am the most powerful, you know, and focus and sharp to take action and solve this thing. Even if you think about communication. Right? A lot of the things that we're gonna experience in our relationships, in business, in our careers Will require us to communicate with another human to solve things, To, like, set boundaries, to communicate how we're feeling, you know, and a 100% of the times, you will be a much better, clear, compassionate communicator when you come from a place of being grounded, calm, at peace, and, like, Joyful, even better. But, like, if you're just neutral, you're gonna be so much better and so much more powerful as a communicator. You know? So that's how Oh, like, I feel like I use those as my north. It's like, how do I want to be in all of these different situations. Right? And, obviously, I still get out of my Center and everything, it's like that has not changed. I think that what has changed is that it's much lower.

Diana Sofia [00:46:09]:
You know? I'm not getting super activated All the time by everything. And when I do, I know exactly the tools that I need to use, you know, and I mainly need to get a hypnosis session or whatever it is So that I can get back to my center or, like, there's maybe something that I need to heal. But, basically, that's how I see Those, like, yeah, those emotions as, like, a good north of how we can experience more of our lives. And, obviously, Stuff is gonna happen in life that's unavoidable, you know, and we are gonna get out of our center. And I think it's a it's a matter of, like, Validating our emotions, validating our experience, and knowing that we have these tools that can get us back into center and also that we can use to heal whatever needs healing, you know, if this is something that is repeating again and again like a pattern or if we are Really activated by something all of a sudden, it's like, okay. Perfect. That may mean that I need to, like, clear some stuff from the past so I can heal and yes. Keep moving forward in a much more powerful, calm, grounded, you know, like, joyful way.

Dr. Christine Li [00:47:14]:
Beautiful. I absolutely agree that those experiences of being calm, grounded, and joyful are expansive, they really help you to, first of all, not feel in fear, which

Diana Sofia [00:47:32]:
Mhmm.

Dr. Christine Li [00:47:33]:
Happens to be probably the biggest, most common trigger we have. Right? The overeating, the going to distractions, actions, it's all because we can't really handle what we're feeling at the moment. But what if you had some tools and some real belief that they worked to calm yourself down the next time you felt like you were hitting a wall or doing something funny and sabotaging yourself, I I think Diana has done a masterful public speaking job today and teaching job in really bringing us up to speed with what is possible for each of us that we can really operate at the superhuman level where we Yes. Overcome the past and we overcome our fears and we move really straightforwardly towards what we want and desire for ourselves. So thank you, Diana, for doing the hard hard work in your life and in your career and with your passion, because it's really been a huge success, and I'm so grateful to learn from you today and to experience that, that memory, I'm gonna have to unpack that I got. But thank you. Thank you. Thank you.

Dr. Christine Li [00:48:47]:
The what a pleasure to talk with you and know you and work with you, please let us know how our listeners can stay in touch with you and potentially work with you and learn some more.

Diana Sofia [00:48:59]:
Oh, thank you so much. Well, thank you so much for your words. Oh my god. I I love you. Like, thank you. Thank you so much. It's this is, like, literally my joy. I mean, if you cannot tell.

Diana Sofia [00:49:09]:
It's like literally my joy and pleasure to just talk about these things. I am so fascinated by them, and I seriously would love Everyone to know about this because it's so powerful and I see so many people suffering, you know, in so many different ways and also not Getting to do and experience the things that they want to experience and even and also, like, even just bringing it to, like, a person level. Right? Not being able to see their potential, you know, like, out there. Right? Like, see and experience that version of themselves. Right? It's like, It just breaks my heart. So, like, I literally just want, like, everyone to know about this. Either if they work with me or not, I don't care. Just go and get someone, you know, like, that That can help you with these things, you know, because also there's people with a lot of different specialties.

Diana Sofia [00:49:56]:
They do the same work, but for relationships and for, like, health and wellness and this and that. You know? So, like, It's amazing. And literally, it can exactly what you said, it can get you to experience yourself as Kind of like superhuman, but it's just because, like, we are. That's us. You know? But we don't get to see that in ourselves because of all this, like, noise and, like, stuff that is, like, clouding our view of ourselves. I always say, you know, like, we are so powerful, so amazing. We So much talent, so many gifts that the world needs and, yet, you know, we are thinking that we are, I don't know, so small, so not powerful, we lack confidence. And all of that is just noise.

Diana Sofia [00:50:40]:
You know, 3 d, like, things that we learn and And we can clear so you can anyone can see themselves in this new light. And thank you so much for those, like, final words. That was amazing. Seriously, you said it so well. So, yeah, how people can, like, contact me in, like I love hanging out on Instagram. My handle is At I am Diana Sofia, and Sofia is with an f of Frank. That is like the little curveball that I'm gonna throw to everyone. No.

Diana Sofia [00:51:08]:
So I'm Peruvian, so, like, we don't do p h. We do f. And, yeah, and then same. My my website is literally, diana sophia.com. And then I think we have a little, like, gift for everyone. So we have, like, I have a self hypnosis recording that I use to start Embodying this new version of myself, and Christine is gonna put it in this link, you know, that she's gonna be sharing with all of you guys.

Dr. Christine Li [00:51:37]:
Yes, thank you so much for the free gift. To get the hypnosis, it would be maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/dianasophia, again with an f, so s o f i a. So again, it's maketimeforsuccesspodcast.com/dianas o f i a, so happy to see you, Diana. So happy Thank you so much. Shining so bright currently and, you know, ever since I've ever known you, you've shown brightly, but I'm so excited to see you really expand your powers and your message and your work, it's a delight.

Diana Sofia [00:52:17]:
Thank you so much. Thank you. Thank you. Thank you. So happy for this opportunity and, yeah, thank you again.

Dr. Christine Li [00:52:24]:
Okay. Alright, everyone. You know how to stay in touch with Diana. Her Instagram is awesome. You're gonna see her little puppy too occasionally, who is a joy who is a joy, and, Diana is a joy as well. So thanks so much for being with Diana and me today, stay in touch. Keep listening to the Make Time For Success podcast. I will see you soon.

Dr. Christine Li [00:52:47]:
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